Saying Goodbyes and Hi
My kids have received their streaming results and are broken into various classes. Many of them blogged aboout it, saying that how much they will miss the sec 2 class. Many displayed in their MSN, "I wil misse the times with you guys" etc.
I guess it sounds childish to us, adults (I'm 21. I is a adult. :P) I mean, logically speaking, they are still in the same school, they will still each other, chances are they are at most 50m apart from each other given any time of the day.
And then I looked back, and realised that I was like them when I was their age.
I used to attribute that to the melo-dramatic overtly-sedimental personality of mine. But i guess i was only half correct.
In schools, we always make promises, that we will keep in contact, we will always be the bests friends etc. But then again, as we move on in life, made new friends, meet new people, we begin to forget all the promises we have made. No one seemed to care, no one seemed to bother to honour it anymore, and no one bothered if anyone honoured it in the first place.
Now I see my kids, making the same promises to each other, or made promises to me when I left (I will not forget what you said), I wonder how much they will honour it.
I guess given their age, they experience less people moving in and out of their life. Hence, every gathering and leaving matters a lot more to them. As compared to us adults, we see so much of it, that we are so used to it - it simply numbs us.
It is interesting that it's the kids who knows how to treasure those in their lifes, to treasure the moments, to appreciate it. As for us "adults", it seems like you will only be treasured only if you are useful. Project mates? Guess many of us would rather forget about most of them unless they are really nice to work with. Army buddies? So what you have been through thick and thin together. How many of us have talked more than 5 sentences to them for the past 2 months?
When was the last time we have taken the initative to ask how our friends are, not because we have something to sell to them, not because we have some information that we need to get from them, not because something bad had happened, not because some joyous event has occured. Just simply, cause we want to find out how they are?
Is it so difficult? Why do we always assume that as long as there is no news coming out from them, they are doing fine? Why do we always have to wait till gatherings, or some one died, or someone got married, or someone gave birth, to get together and even dial some number and ask "how are you?"
I guess it sounds childish to us, adults (I'm 21. I is a adult. :P) I mean, logically speaking, they are still in the same school, they will still each other, chances are they are at most 50m apart from each other given any time of the day.
And then I looked back, and realised that I was like them when I was their age.
I used to attribute that to the melo-dramatic overtly-sedimental personality of mine. But i guess i was only half correct.
In schools, we always make promises, that we will keep in contact, we will always be the bests friends etc. But then again, as we move on in life, made new friends, meet new people, we begin to forget all the promises we have made. No one seemed to care, no one seemed to bother to honour it anymore, and no one bothered if anyone honoured it in the first place.
Now I see my kids, making the same promises to each other, or made promises to me when I left (I will not forget what you said), I wonder how much they will honour it.
I guess given their age, they experience less people moving in and out of their life. Hence, every gathering and leaving matters a lot more to them. As compared to us adults, we see so much of it, that we are so used to it - it simply numbs us.
It is interesting that it's the kids who knows how to treasure those in their lifes, to treasure the moments, to appreciate it. As for us "adults", it seems like you will only be treasured only if you are useful. Project mates? Guess many of us would rather forget about most of them unless they are really nice to work with. Army buddies? So what you have been through thick and thin together. How many of us have talked more than 5 sentences to them for the past 2 months?
When was the last time we have taken the initative to ask how our friends are, not because we have something to sell to them, not because we have some information that we need to get from them, not because something bad had happened, not because some joyous event has occured. Just simply, cause we want to find out how they are?
Is it so difficult? Why do we always assume that as long as there is no news coming out from them, they are doing fine? Why do we always have to wait till gatherings, or some one died, or someone got married, or someone gave birth, to get together and even dial some number and ask "how are you?"
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