why not have meis?

a female kid of mine asked "you have 5 dis, why not have meis?"

well, there are two answers to it. one personal, one professional.

for the answer that stems from personal reasons, it is dead simple - my dis are my dis because i realise, that i see them more like a younger sibling to me. i felt the responsibility to look out for them like how a older brother would, i realise that they are, like younger brothers that i never had, and i very much love and proud of them like how an elder brother would to his younger siblings.

most importantly, they are special to me. there wasn't any selection criteria, it just happens. none of my female kids are close to that unfortunately. so how to be my meis?

as for the answer that stems from professional reasons, let's face it. we all know the formula - male teacher + female student has a very high probability of generating gossips and accusations. male teacher being the pervert, male teacher being the lecher etc. we all know it. it may be false accusations, but hey. the stigma will definitely stay even if there is no proof of misconduct of on the male teacher. such accusations and rumours, are not easy to wipe off.

also, not everyone takes the attention the same way. some naive ones might think that you are in love with them or whatsoever.

perhaps because of that, i might have subconsciously distanced myself from my female kids.