a letter to my future children or student if he or she turns out to be a lbgt

dear future child or student,

i'm not sure what will they call it in the future. right now, people call anyone who's a lesbian, bisexual, gay and transexual as a lbgt.

i'm not sure when in my life i will encounter you, or if i'll encounter you at all in my life. but i'm pretty sure if i'm alive over the next 10 years, there is at least a 90% chance that one of you would enter my life. this is my letter to you, written on this day from the past, 07 may 2009.

right now, you might have discovered that you are different from other people. perhaps since birth, you may have felt that you are born in the wrong body. i hope you are clear that there is a difference between being a homosexual or transsexual, as compared to someone who's straight but a little more effeminate or manly. i hope you are clear that behaving in a certain manner does not make you a lbgt, nor joining certain cca make you a lbgt. it is not what people call you that makes you a lbgt, it's what's inside you that makes you a lbgt.

i don't know what is society's opinion of the lbgt at the time you read this. right now, from what i see, many in society stigmatise the lbgt. some label the lbgt as disgusting, have the impression that they are perverts obsessed with sex etc. of course, there are straight people out there who are more tolerant and open-minded (like me. hehe), but from observation, it seems like we are the minority straight people who are more accepting to the lbgt. there are still quite a few people who call effeminate males as "ah quah", whether they are straight or not, and show disgust when women behave "more manly". i have to admit, i was one of those who stigmatise, discriminate, and made fun of these people in the past as well.

i don't know if the debate would have been settled by the time you read this, but as of now, there is much debate over the cause of homosexuality and transsexuality. some say it is in-born, genetic or mental. some say it is a choice. as for me, i belong to those who believe that homosexuality is in-born. i find it hard to believe that homosexuality or transsexuality is a matter of choice. why so? if it is a choice, why are so many lbgt out there choose to be discriminated or stigmatised against? why is the decision on whether to come out of the closet so difficult if being a lbgt is a matter of choice? why are there lbgts hiding their sexuality if being one is a matter of choice?

you might be facing the same situation now. that is why i've decided to write this letter today. it is because today, i want to make it clear, that regardless of what my child is like, i will love him or her as much as i love my other children. regardless of what my student is like, i will love my student as much as a i love my other students. it doesn't matter if you're straight, homosexual, bisexual or transsexual. that doesn't mean you can't be a human that contribute to society. that doesn't make you any less of a human. that doesn't mean you have to feel less of yourself, that doesn't mean you are denied being a human being. that is why i'm saying it today, i'll love you as much as i love others, because you are not less human than others in anyway. in no way should you feel that you're a lesser person because you're a lbgt, just like how i believe a person of a different religion or ethnicity is not less of a person. you can achieve as much, or even more, as anyone else.

if you are my child, i don't know what your mother will feel like. but do let your father know. i only want you to be happy in life.

if you are my student, i don't know what how your parents will feel. if they can't accept it, please don't blame them. but don't assume or take it that they don't love you because you're a lbgt. sometimes, they need time. i have heard stories of parents who chase their child out of the house or disown them because they come out of the closet, and took decades to accept their child's sexuality to reconnect with their child. of course there are happier stories, but don't ever blame your parents. if you want them to accept you for the way you are, you have to first accept them for the way they are.

and most importantly, do not get upset or angry over people who make fun of you or can't accept you. don't judge them if you don't want them to judge you. like it or not, some people will have problems accepting your sexuality, just like how some people are still racists. just don't let it affect you, and hold your head up high - you're not any lesser of a human being.

i don't see how this letter would be encouraging anyone to be a lbgt, for the fact that i believe that lbgt is inborn. if you are considering being a lbgt just for experiment sake, please show some respect to the lbgts. your sexuality is not a game, your sexuality is not something for you to have some experiences in your life.

this is written, because i want to assure you, that in my eyes, you're not less of a person in my eyes because of your sexuality. this is something i've thought about for a few years, and decided to make this stand today.

my child, i love you.