succumbed to the temptation

i've told myself this year that with regards to the monkeys,
1) i will not give advice unless it is asked for
2) i will remain passive even though i know they are troubled instead of actively asking how they are coping

these are based on the belief that
1) they are old enough to sort out their own problems
2) they should be given the space to sort things out on their own instead of being hand-held actively so that they can grow and have the confidence to make informed decisions
3) they should be given the trust that they are able to sort things out on their own
4) some may not want me in their life anymore, and hence, taking an active role will "intrude" into it.

yet today i succumb to temptations to ask one monkey who is obviously troubled.

cannot. cannot do that anymore.