Love and Hate
Why is it that a soldier can carry so much hatred for his enemies and yet, at the same time, hold love for his family back home?
Why is it that a cat can be motivated to attack anyone that touches her kittens, while at teh same time, hold love for its kittens?
Hate and Love coexist. They feed each other, they grow each other. It is because you want to protect or serve something that you love, that you hate things that threaten it. The stronger your love is, the stronger your hatred will be.
Why do people hate someone? Well, obviously, that someone has pushed his or her buttons. You don't see people hating strangers for no apperent reasons, do you? And how do one push another person's buttons? By threatening what he or she loved, cared about, or matters to him or her.
So if you are hated, obviously you have pushed someone buttons. And to push more button, don't acknowledge what you have done, and don't apologise. That is why after so many years, the Japanese are still being hated by the Chinese and Koreans, cause they did not acknowledge what they have done to them during WWII, despite so many years.
And to push even more buttons, not only do you not apologise, but trivalise the matter to with ethno-class-centric perspective. And blame people for harping over such a small matter, that is long over. Sounds insenstive, but hey, blame otheres for not being mature enough so that you can climb on the moral high ground.
Running away from your mistakes is cowardance. Not accounting for your mistakes, and to trivalise it is insensitive and immature. Weren't kids the ones who goes something like "I only take $1 what! What's the big deal? Why are you harping over it"
People do want to forgive. Hate is something tiring and draining. No body enjoys hating. But if you were to forgive a person who did not account for his or her mistakes, aren't you sending the wrong signals to people that what they did is ok, and chances are, allowing them to make the same mistakes to others again? If China and Korea were to forgive Japan for what they did during WWII, without Japan acknowledging it, how would future generations of Japan learn about the mistakes their past generations make, learn about the impact it has on others, and make sure it doesn't happen again? If China and Korea did not make noise when Japanese history textbook glorified or made false justifications of the atrocities of the Japanese soldiers, imagine the wrong things that are being taught to their future generations.
That is why people still harp about WSM incident on blogs. Heck, they even made a machinima out of it. Cause she have yet to acknowledge her mistake, nor her father's statement apologise for the incident. If they were to forgive her at this point in time, wouldn't they be sending the wrong signal to this kid, that what you said is correct, just that the tone is wrong, when its her arguements, not tone, that is insensitive(class-centric to a certain degree) and pushed many buttons?
So if you are hated, don't blame people for not forgiving you, if you are not doing things to seek their forgiveness. Cause you show that you are unrepetent, that by forgiving you if you do not acknowledge your mistake, we are as good as agreeing to the horrible things you have done.
Do I hate J, the campmate who i never trusted and got involved in the credit card scam? Quite, but more of detest. But do I want to continue detesting him? Of course not. But I can't forgive him as yet. I thought this incident would teach him a lesson and make him change. I even told Francis, when he's meeting up with J, that if he shows any remorse, tell him that I although i detested him in the past, I will stand by and support the changed him. Yet, he have yet to show any remorse.
Do I hate KQH? Not really, but some of her actions during council irked and pushed many of my buttons. Well, I did many immature acts then in response to being irked, but that doesn't mean I think that my actions were justified. It wasn't, and looking back I shouldn't have done some of the things that I have done. But what irks meup till today is the fact that she has yet to acknowledge her mistake, and continues to trivalise it. Why do we still bring it up? Cause it pushed our buttons, and continues to irk us. Yes, it's tiring and irritating to exclude people, and I want to put it aside. But to forgive her actions when her mindset has yet to change, is as good as endorsing it.
Nobody hates someone who has changed for the better. Remember hating someone who irritated the hell out of you in primary school? Why have you stop hating that person? Cause he or she has changed. I think the success of the Yellow Ribbon Project is a telling sign of people wanting to give a 2nd chance for those who wants to change.
In another weird way, if you look at it in another perspective, you don't hate people you don't care about. We don't go around hating strangers do we?
Love and hate, do coexist.
Why is it that a cat can be motivated to attack anyone that touches her kittens, while at teh same time, hold love for its kittens?
Hate and Love coexist. They feed each other, they grow each other. It is because you want to protect or serve something that you love, that you hate things that threaten it. The stronger your love is, the stronger your hatred will be.
Why do people hate someone? Well, obviously, that someone has pushed his or her buttons. You don't see people hating strangers for no apperent reasons, do you? And how do one push another person's buttons? By threatening what he or she loved, cared about, or matters to him or her.
So if you are hated, obviously you have pushed someone buttons. And to push more button, don't acknowledge what you have done, and don't apologise. That is why after so many years, the Japanese are still being hated by the Chinese and Koreans, cause they did not acknowledge what they have done to them during WWII, despite so many years.
And to push even more buttons, not only do you not apologise, but trivalise the matter to with ethno-class-centric perspective. And blame people for harping over such a small matter, that is long over. Sounds insenstive, but hey, blame otheres for not being mature enough so that you can climb on the moral high ground.
Running away from your mistakes is cowardance. Not accounting for your mistakes, and to trivalise it is insensitive and immature. Weren't kids the ones who goes something like "I only take $1 what! What's the big deal? Why are you harping over it"
People do want to forgive. Hate is something tiring and draining. No body enjoys hating. But if you were to forgive a person who did not account for his or her mistakes, aren't you sending the wrong signals to people that what they did is ok, and chances are, allowing them to make the same mistakes to others again? If China and Korea were to forgive Japan for what they did during WWII, without Japan acknowledging it, how would future generations of Japan learn about the mistakes their past generations make, learn about the impact it has on others, and make sure it doesn't happen again? If China and Korea did not make noise when Japanese history textbook glorified or made false justifications of the atrocities of the Japanese soldiers, imagine the wrong things that are being taught to their future generations.
That is why people still harp about WSM incident on blogs. Heck, they even made a machinima out of it. Cause she have yet to acknowledge her mistake, nor her father's statement apologise for the incident. If they were to forgive her at this point in time, wouldn't they be sending the wrong signal to this kid, that what you said is correct, just that the tone is wrong, when its her arguements, not tone, that is insensitive(class-centric to a certain degree) and pushed many buttons?
So if you are hated, don't blame people for not forgiving you, if you are not doing things to seek their forgiveness. Cause you show that you are unrepetent, that by forgiving you if you do not acknowledge your mistake, we are as good as agreeing to the horrible things you have done.
Do I hate J, the campmate who i never trusted and got involved in the credit card scam? Quite, but more of detest. But do I want to continue detesting him? Of course not. But I can't forgive him as yet. I thought this incident would teach him a lesson and make him change. I even told Francis, when he's meeting up with J, that if he shows any remorse, tell him that I although i detested him in the past, I will stand by and support the changed him. Yet, he have yet to show any remorse.
Do I hate KQH? Not really, but some of her actions during council irked and pushed many of my buttons. Well, I did many immature acts then in response to being irked, but that doesn't mean I think that my actions were justified. It wasn't, and looking back I shouldn't have done some of the things that I have done. But what irks meup till today is the fact that she has yet to acknowledge her mistake, and continues to trivalise it. Why do we still bring it up? Cause it pushed our buttons, and continues to irk us. Yes, it's tiring and irritating to exclude people, and I want to put it aside. But to forgive her actions when her mindset has yet to change, is as good as endorsing it.
Nobody hates someone who has changed for the better. Remember hating someone who irritated the hell out of you in primary school? Why have you stop hating that person? Cause he or she has changed. I think the success of the Yellow Ribbon Project is a telling sign of people wanting to give a 2nd chance for those who wants to change.
In another weird way, if you look at it in another perspective, you don't hate people you don't care about. We don't go around hating strangers do we?
Love and hate, do coexist.
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