A blessed union with many lessons and awkward questions

attended Kak K's wedding today. i thought i would miss the other kakaks as i overslept. but apparently, i was the first among them to arrive, and the people i wanted to avoid have left / about to leave. 

boy is she gorgeous. it was just so sweet seeing two of them on the dais. though i don't know the groom well, it just seems like both of them are so compatible for each other. 

met up with quite a number of ex-colleagues and it was a great time catching up with them. inevitably, the conversation swayed to the topics about the kids. one of them was direct enough to ask me "you miss them ah?"

then the wedding became a occasion not just for me to catch up with people, but to have awkward questions thrown at me. somehow the conversations with quite a few people drifted to another corner too. different people were asking me at different time "are you dating?" "do you have a girlfriend" "how's uni? got girlfriend?".  the wedding bug must have bitten them.

chill people. i will inform you when i got one. and make sure you buy 4d that day, cause you have a high chance of striking 1st prize. but what surprised me most was this question "are you dating any of your students?" what? with my own kids?

it was also an occasion where i had epiphanies of some things in life. ( i learnt that word from the simpsons movie)

i manage to learn how the to greet ex-students if you can't remember their names but don't want them to feel left out. if the first thing your teacher call you is "gorgeous", "darling" and proceed to hug you, chances are they kinda forgot your name. however, it sounds lewd if it comes from a male teacher. perhaps my ex-teachers "oh you look so different" will be better for me.

i've also learnt that happily ever after do exist in real life, but it is a packaged deal with tolerance and acceptance as well. I saw so many elder couples, with so much love between them. especially kak s's parents, one whom is chinese, the other malay. i'm sure they've been through a lot before they got married, but it is so heart-warming to see them ageing gracefully with so much love between them. 

but them most important thing i learnt, is from the bride and groom. kak z told me about their love story - how they met in jc, broke up, had relationships with other people, only to be back again, and now married. it's amazing how life play tricks on people and how life goes back in one full circle. like how kak z put it, just because 2 people are not ready for each other at one point of their life, doesn't mean they aren't suppose to be for the rest of their lives. 

may the both of you grow old together, hand in hand.

i wonder who's next. 

i wonder if there will be a day where i get to witness my dis or kids getting married.