some clarification for the previous post

just re-read my previous post, and realised that some parts can be misinterpreted easily. here's some clarification:

1) i'm not intending to shut out all my dis and kids
i'm just pondering if i'm overly intrusive, and whether i should take the initiative to ask them about their problems or wait for them to tell me. i'm not going to shut out anyone who approach me. i'm just pondering if i should take the first step.

2) i'm not going to not care about my dis and kids
i still do care for them. it is precisely because i care for them, that i'm wondering, given their age, if i should let them struggle a little to learn some life lessons or intervene. and if i intervene, am i doing more harm than good?

3) i don't want to make things awkward for them
as much as you know your parents or siblings love you and wish you happiness with your relationship, you wouldn't want them to keep asking you how is it or cheer you on with regards to your relationships, right? relationships are after all a more private and intimate sphere between you and your other half.

as for outings, i do enjoy going out with them, but there are some space we want to keep just to ourselves and our friends, right? hence, i wonder if i'm making things awkward for them when i join them.

4) there are times when i wish they are clear about it
if i'm intrusive, irritating, naggy etc. i'll rather they tell me that. i'll rather they tell me to back-off when i'm intruding in.

5) i still love them
especially my dis. i'm grateful everyday to have these 5 younger brothers that i never had.

for those of you out there who says "see i told you not to get too emotionally close to your students", these things which i'm pondering over are just the few downsides. the downsides are like a grain of sand compared to the huge amount of joy they have given me.